Ah yes, “incel”: that word that sounds like it came from a rejected Marvel villain or a new kind of over-the-counter medicine for chronic loneliness. It stands for “involuntary celibate,” but if you read its usage in modern media, you’d think it stood for “Intensely Creepy Evil Loser.” Funny how branding works.
Let’s get one thing clear: involuntary celibacy has existed since the dawn of man. And no, that’s not hyperbole. Men have been celibate—voluntarily and otherwise—for as long as history has been written, scratched on a rock, or passed down by firelight. From awkward villagers to overzealous desert prophets, there’s always been a crowd of dudes who just couldn’t make it work with women. Sometimes it was bad hygiene, sometimes bad timing, and sometimes just bad luck. But society didn’t invent a slur to describe them. You were just single. And maybe a little strange. But you showed up to synagogue and hoped for the best.
Today, you get slapped with a label: incel. A modern Frankenstein of a term, cobbled together by feminist linguists with a grudge against traditional masculinity. It’s a word not based in reason, but in rhetoric. A word invented not to describe but to demean. As you so wisely put it: “The word is not based in reason. It is a made-up word created by feminists who hate men to belittle and degrade men.”
It’s ironic, really. Feminism claims it was born out of female degradation. But now feminists have become Frankenstein, and men are Frankenstein’s monster. Somewhere along the line, the movement that claimed to be about empowerment began using playground insults as a form of social theory.
The Logic Collapse
So let me get this straight. A man wants a wife, wants to love and be loved, to raise children and live in stability. But because he can’t attract women who are, as you say, “promiscuous modern feminist women who now belittle men who are not attractive, rich, etc…”—he becomes a villain in the cultural narrative? That’s not feminism. That’s elitism. Sexual elitism. Relationship capitalism. The gospel of attraction over action.
We’re in a world where bad women reward bad men and shame the rest. Good women, the kind who help civilize male energy and raise families, have been all but banished from pop culture. And the men left behind are either told to become monsters or mocked for not being them.
Here’s the thing: celibacy isn’t a curse. It can be a gift. Scripture honors it.
“But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am.”
—1 Corinthians 7:8 (NKJV)[1]
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
—Psalm 34:18[2]
But instead of lifting men up, our culture created a term to kick them down.
A Word Christians Should Not Use
This is why Christians and conservatives should not acknowledge or legitimize the term incel. It is unbiblical. It does not reflect Christian compassion, nor does it rest on anything close to a rational understanding of sexual dynamics or human worth. It is a shaming mechanism invented by the very ideologues who have tried to dismantle the family, erase gender, and politicize biology.
We are not here to affirm a culture that makes war on lonely men. We are here to minister to them. To tell them that they are not monsters, not losers, not incels—but men created in the image of God.[3]
Personal Notes from the Cave
I’ll be honest—I’ve looked in the mirror and thought, “If I were a woman, I wouldn’t date me either.” There are seasons where I couldn’t get a date with a coupon and a free steak. But here’s what I’ve learned: loneliness does not equal failure. The approval of modern women does not define the worth of a man.
We can laugh at ourselves. Be jolly. Be celibate. Be single. Be awkward. But let us never be defined by labels that are built on hate. Let us rise above it, and remember that even the Apostle Paul was celibate. Even Jesus Himself walked this earth without a romantic partner. Were they incels? Don’t be ridiculous.
They were faithful.
And that is what we must be.
Final Word
Being single isn’t a sin. Mocking people for it might be. The term incel is a cultural scam. A rhetorical joke played on men who are already hurting. As Christians, we don’t play that game.
We love. We forgive. We uplift. We rebuild.
Because the only label that truly matters is the one written in the Lamb’s Book of Life.
Footnotes
[1] Apostle Paul, 1 Corinthians 7:8, New King James Version.
[2] Psalmist David, Psalm 34:18, New King James Version.
[3] Genesis 1:27, “So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.” (NKJV).
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